“I am Powerful. I am Loved. I am Whole just as I am.”
Take a moment to repeat the above mantras. How does that make you feel? Is there so much self-judgement that you are unable to see and feel the truth of who you are? We spend so much energy and time criticizing ourselves, looking at what we perceive to be wrong with us and what we will do differently in the new year. We have based our worth and success on a number we see on the scale. Research has shown time and time again that New Year’s Resolutions are not a successful way to make lasting transformations.
The Three Step Transformation:
1. Celebrate Your Success!
Take a moment to think about what you have done that makes you proud of yourself this year. Seeing the good, positive and all that you have done right. Tap into that self-fulfilling inspiration!
2. Create Pleasure Retreats
We all have a desire for pleasure. How are you currently feeding that desire and is it satisfying you? Pleasure is about feeling really good about yourself and creating new adventures. Take some time to create a pleasure plan, know what brings you pleasure. Research has shown that the mind doesn’t know the difference between real and imagined. Take a minute or so every day to take yourself to your pleasure spot; whether it be a nice body massage or scrub, walking through a garden, hearing the waves at the ocean, a good belly laughs with a friend or an intimate encounter; imagine on a daily basis.
3. Hae Gratitude and Appreciate Others
When you look around at those around you, who you interact with today, or even reflect on those of the past, be grateful for what gifts they brought into your life. Our minds are a powerful thing, and we have the ability to tell ourselves a story, be it good or bad. When you choose to appreciate those around you and have gratitude, it reflects in your words and actions. People love a positive attitude, and it can entirely reshape the world around you to take on this mindset.
What Are You Grateful For?
Take a moment to reflect on at least one thing you are grateful for and one person who brought a smile to your face, and meditate on that.
Creating a new ritual and taking five to fifteen minutes daily making the three above step of seeing and feeling a goodwill create an internal change that can transform your New Year! I encourage you to do this with a ritual you already do; whether it be drinking your morning tea or coffee while brushing your teeth or taking a shower. Whatever you focus on you will get more of the same. With that, doing the above exercise can bring you more success, pleasure, and pleasant experiences.